Today we thought we’d get a little serious and talk about how we deal with envy. With Pinterest, Instagram, Blogs and Facebook it’s easy to compare ourselves to other people without knowing their circumstances. We want to have a discussion about how we deal with our own feelings about comparison and envy.
Sarah: One of my favorite quotes is Theodore Roosevelt’s, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” With the non-stop availability of images of other people’s gorgeous lifestyles, it’s easy to compare and find ourselves lacking. It’s taken me a long time to really accept that the abundance of someone else in no way diminishes from what I have and enjoy. I was perfectly happy before I saw the picture of some stranger’s new living room light fixture! That being said, sometimes I have to remind myself of all the good things I have in my life. My days are full of dirty diapers and laundry, so I don’t always feel like I have a lot to offer to the online world. Those are the times that I have to remind myself that I don’t live my life for the online world; I live it for my family. It’s easy for me to be intimidated by the amazing talent of Candice and Amanda, but that’s when I tell myself that we are here to complement each other with our skill sets. We want Handmade Mood to be a place where you can come to be inspired, but we definitely recognize that we are still learning! And for the days when you’re feeling like you don’t measure up, go check out Pinterest Fail and Cake Wrecks, it’ll be a little smile in your day!
Candice: I read a quote once by Michael Forbes that said that “too many people undervalue what they are (and I would add, what they have) and overvalue what they are not.” I completely agree with this statement. In the case of envy, for me, it usually comes down to me being insecure about something in my own life rather than really disliking someone for what they have done or have.
Amanda: My mom has a lot of sayings that we heard over and over growing up and even in adulthood – but my favorite and the one that helps me deal with envy is “Only you can be in charge of how you feel.” Only I have the power to let myself feel jealous or envious (or any other huge range of emotions) and only I have the capacity to decide how I will react and respond when I feel it creeping in. Several of my very best friends are starting major house reno projects and one just finished an amazing restoration of a historic home in an area of town I’d LOVE to live in. Slowly over the course of their projects, my excitement wore down and the discontent started to creep in. My peacock teal kitchen counters make my eyes ache a little more than usual… my pickled cabinetry seems a little more outdated and my tired latte paint job seems a little more tired. But I have to CHOOSE to love the imperfections and CHOOSE to live vicariously happy through my friends’ adventures. I choose to only go to Pinterest when I’m looking for something specific and choose to toss the catalogs straight in the recycling and choose to not read the 500 marketing emails that pop up in my inbox so that I can choose to be content and fulfilled and not envious. And, I can choose to indulge in wistful – but not envious – planning and dreaming for my own life-projects.
How do you deal with envy in your life?